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Happiness is the Goal

Saturday, June 17th, 2017

As a parent there is nothing you want more in life than for your child(ren) to be happy.

Nothing.

No, I mean it. Nuh-thing.

You see, there’s something that happens inside when you become a parent. I wouldn’t call it strange, or weird, it’s just…well, different.

In an instant, whether you feel it or not, everything changes.

No matter what your plans were before, how many mountains you were going to climb, those promotions you were going to seek, or those salaries you were going to make, they all fall to a distant second behind making your child happy.

And for the most part, in most homes, I’d say as they grow up they’re happy.

As a toddler they cry for ice cream or a cookie and you get it. Happiness accomplished.

When they hit middle school and someone breaks their heart for the first time, you want nothing more than to restore happiness with a hug and a “it’ll be ok”.

Restoring happiness is always the goal.

Yeah, there are other goals along the way. Soccer championship. Saving enough for a car. Meeting the right mate. Buying a home.

But if you look at those, their core driver is still happiness.

When they turn into young adults, and life kicks them in the ass, you still want to step in. Its what good parents do.

Or want to do.

At some point, they’ll have to start choosing their own happiness.

They’ll be making decisions that affect their happiness, and you’ll just be an observer.

What a crock.

This position between letting them grow up and you stepping in to restore happiness is one no parent desires.

Do they really have to learn these lessons? Do they really have to go through this?

Yes, of course they do.

And they’ll be better for it.

But it hurts.

It hurts because their happiness is your fuel. It’s your reason for being. Its the only thing that makes the universe right.

Without it, things are askew. Your life is off kilter.

Even our last moments on earth are yet another point in their life when unhappiness could abound.

They’ll be unhappy because their lifelong defender will have gone away.

Is there anything we can do about that?

Not at that moment, no. Its too late.

But if we do it right, I think we can leave them in a way that also makes them happy. We can teach them truths that give them freedom from fear, their future, and even death.

And if we teach them those things, I believe they’ll always be happy.

And that means our mission will have been accomplished.

The Right to Be Forgotten

Monday, October 26th, 2015

Once a picture or video of you is shared on the Internet, it is nigh on impossible to remove the content.  However, sometimes our pictures, videos, or other information find their way to the Internet without our consent, and it can be extremely challenging to wipe them off of the Internet. It almost as though once something has been posted online, it has become immortal.

After all, who knows when and if any of our social media content will ever be completely removed from the Internet? You might reasonably expect that all of the servers and data would be destroyed when the company that hosted our social media content – Facebook, for example – has finally bit the dust like other historic empires. But that could take eons! Click to continue »

Business Growth and Laziness

Thursday, March 20th, 2014

If someone were to ask me about my business, and what was one of the worst decisions I ever made, it’d be an easy answer – I got comfortable in my success.

I’m very blessed to be able to a business owner.  For many years I trudged through the corporate world, hating it more and more every day.  I think it takes a special ability to not only go out on your own, but to make it work too.  Anyone can quit their job and start a business.  That’s probably why the failure rate is so high.  It takes a special kind of hustle to actually make it work.

I built my company from the bottom up, working a full time job while acquiring clients and teaching myself on the side.  After many years (and some prodding after reading the Four Hour Work Week), I quit a fairly high paying job and stepped out.  And I had success.  In the first year I made more than I had at my job.  Things were good.

Second year and third year were great.  Things are growing, we moved into a bigger space, hired a new intern here and there.  And I felt good.  I felt comfortable.

Ok, I became lazy. Click to continue »

To My Daughter: Don’t Marry A Guy With a Job

Tuesday, January 7th, 2014

Dear Amber,

It is my hope, while you’re still just 19 years old, that you take these words to heart.

I don’t want you to marry a guy that has a job. Click to continue »

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